Healing from falling in love: A self-centred journey to prioritise and manifest your dreams

Love is a profound and transformative experience that shapes our lives in countless ways. It brings joy, comfort and connection but can also lead to sadness, loss and heartache. Letting go of a love that doesn’t serve you can be a difficult but liberating journey to take. It’s a way to heal, prioritise yourself, shed outdated beliefs, and ultimately manifest the life of your dreams. This journey requires courage, introspection, and a strong commitment to personal growth.

The Art of Letting Go

Letting go of love is often miss-understood as forgetting or erasing memories. It’s really about acceptance and letting go. Acceptance means accepting the relationship for what it was and seeing its beauty and flaws and recognizing that its chapter in your life is over and releasing the emotional chains that bind you to the past, and to move forward without any obstacles.
Start by allowing yourself to feel and let go. Accept the sadness, anger, and confusion without judgement. These feelings are natural and necessary for healing. Keeping a journal, journaling your feelings may help by writing how you feel it can be  healing to let go of these thoughts, putting your pen to paper can be liberating, talking to a therapist, listening to self help audio books can help you build a better mindset just pop your headset on while tidying the house or listen before you sleep at night, or you try engaging in creative activities or starting an exercise routine can help manage these feelings. Remember that healing is not linear. There will be good days and bad days, and it doesn’t matter. It's all part of the process of healing and letting go sit with your feelings, feel them and then release them. Emotions are part of life don't be afraid of your emotions cleanse your soul and free yourself from holding on to any of these fragmented thoughts and feelings remember to keep love and light in your heart let go of any hurt and pain let yourself heal, the love you gave to others turn that inwards self love is the most powerful love that you can give.

Provide the things that matter to you

When you decide to walk away , it’s important to focus inward and put yourself first. Self-centeredness is not selfish; It’s important for your well-being and growth. Start by identifying your needs and wants. What makes you feel satisfied? What activities or practices feed your soul? This can be anything from daily meditation exercises to hobbies or time in nature.Set boundaries to protect your newfound perspective. Learn to say no to people and situations that sap your energy. Surround yourself with positive influences—friends who uplift you, environments that inspire you, and things that inspire you. Taking care of them is always an act, not a luxury.

Discarding old beliefs

Our beliefs shape our reality, and we often hold outdated or limiting beliefs that hinder our progress. These beliefs may stem from past experiences, social expectations, or implicit assumptions. In order to manifest the life of your dreams, it is important to identify and shed these limiting beliefs.Start by questioning your intentions. Are they based on facts or assumptions? Are you empowered or shut down? Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with affirmations that reflect your true potential. For example, if you feel you don’t deserve love, counter it with affirmations like “I deserve love and respect”.Embrace a growth mindset. See challenges as learning opportunities rather than obstacles. Understand that failures and setbacks are part of the journey, they don’t define your worth or potential.

Manifest your dream life

With a healthy heart, priority and an open mind, you are now ready to manifest the life of your dreams. Manifestation is the act of bringing your desires to fruition through focused thought and action.Start by clearly defining your vision. What does your dream life look like? Specify your goals and aspirations. Imagine this life positively and constantly. Use vision boards, assertions, and visualisation techniques to keep your desires ruling your mind.Do the inspired work. Not only are thoughts and desires manifested; it’s about what you do. Break down your goals into actionable steps and commit to them. Be disciplined, but also flexible and open to opportunities that align with your vision.Acknowledge and appreciate the progress you have made and the blessings you have already received. Have gratitude and appreciation for your new found positive energy and confidence. It will bring so much into your life, remember happiness is contagious when you smile at a stranger you often find that they will reciprocate, spread the cheer outwardly be that beacon of light for others.

Letting go and healing from love is a profound journey to self-awareness and power. By putting yourself first, shedding outdated beliefs, and manifesting your dreams, you create a life that is not only fulfilling but also truly yours. Remember that this journey is very personal and unique to you. Commit to the process, develop confidence in your resilience, and embrace the endless possibilities that lie ahead. The life of your dreams is in your hands. Be extraordinary, stand out, shine bright, dare to be different and most of all love yourself! 

Victoria Elizabeth